Memorial Day is different, as we are remembering the loss of so many to war, 'lest we forget', but for a loved one, it makes no sense to me
For me, an anniversary, for example, for a birthday, a wedding or when you gave up an addiction, is something to be celebrated as a happy memory, so I don't understand why a death should want to be remembered in the same way. Don't get me wrong, I still have special days of when I remember them more than most, but these are on their birthdays and on Mothers/Fathers day. Whatever way we choose to remember our loved ones, whether it be by lighting a candle, taking flowers to their gravestone or place of death, or just spending time mulling over all our memories of them, it is an acknowledgement to ourselves and others that, although they are gone, they are not forgotten.
I'm also intrigued that some people still pray for their loved ones who have passed on, and I have to wonder if God still hears these prayers, especially if you aren't sure that the person has gone to heaven...
Some people go to great lengths to show they are in mourning and yet others, like the Irish, view a death as a celebration of their life and not as an end of it. Let's face it, we all must face a death at some point in our lives, but as sad and painful it is to miss someone, when I reach my end, I would much rather have my life celebrated, than my death remembered...
What do you think?...
